Dishwashers and vacuums may only run during school hours. If you are feeling brave, dishwashers can be run after 11:00 PM. This is not true for vacuuming. You must check the refrigerator frequently to make sure the controls have not been covertly turned off. Breathe deeply. Always be sure you have a container filled with rice,oats, or dry beans. They may cause messes on the floor, but remember the rules on vacuum use. Frequently check your supply of diapers and disposable wipes. You will go through them faster than you anticipate. Don’t forget to buy the adult size because the baby ones are no longer sufficient. When you manage to go to a store, always pick up AA batteries as well as chicken nuggets and Goldfish Crackers. Listen for doors opening and install bars on second floor windows. You should be very aware that they can be fallen from. The electric toothbrush, bathroom fan, and kitchen exhaust follow the same rules as vacuum and dishwasher use. Never raise your voice because it is not necessary and will cause unintended crying. Calmly assert your point when you need to and ignore the tantrum which may result. Sleep when you can because it can not be guaranteed in the typical time frame. The batteries you constantly buy power the toys which make noise at three in the morning. Do laundry several times a day. If favored articles of clothing and his favorite blanket are not available, sensory meltdowns may ensue. It is okay to wear swim trunks under jeans. Flapping and spinning are entrancing. Accept it. Put five towels around the bathtub because a flood will cause the downstairs ceiling to stain. Baths may be needed several times a day. Towels can be washed with favorite clothes for the sake of efficiency. When pinched or bitten, show no reaction. Remember how much worse it could be. Don’t forget the other children. They have homework, appointments, and activities. Take time to talk to them about their day. Don’t tell them about yours. Some family members never come to birthday or Christmas parties and could care less that they are missed. Tell all your children to not take it personally even though you do in silence. When scheduled help comes for a few hours a week, take a nap. Remember the noisy toys in the middle of the night. If you are feeling particularly energetic, take the other kids to the park, read a story, or help with homework. Attempt to feel normal if you can imagine what it would be like. Draw, listen to music, write and create. Learn to accept the serenity of repetition. Breathe deeply. Always be ready to slow down and take kisses when offered. He prefers elbows and necks. Look into his eyes which change colors like storm clouds. Tell him you are proud of him and know he thinks great thoughts without saying a word. It makes everything worth it.